New moms, here’s how to feel less isolated despite the pandemic


New mothers typically experience a sense of isolation as well as a tremendous shift in identity, and the pandemic has only exacerbated this. These coping skills can help you connect and find support while still staying safe.

Under normal, non-pandemic circumstances, new moms typically experience a sense of isolation and a tremendous shift in identity when they go on maternity leave because we lose our day-to-day interactions with most other adults. New motherhood is not unlike lockdown: a trip to the grocery store can be the highlight of your week. The house bans of the pandemic have tightened and tightened them Feelings of stress and isolation, making everyday tasks difficult. Even packing the baby and heading to postpartum appointments (especially if you don’t have a car) can be fraught with fears of germs and logistics.

“About 80 percent of women three months after giving birth say they feel more alone than they did before the pandemic, and about 28 percent say their sense of isolation has increased dramatically,” says Gerald Giesbrecht, associate professor of pediatrics and community medicine Health Sciences at the University of Calgary and co-author of the Pregnancy During the Pandemic study, which includes data from more than 8,200 Canadian women, and counting. “The fear that the baby will be harmed by the coronavirus and additional responsibilities during quarantine are also major contributors to stress.”

Here are some options counteract this fear and connect with others.

1. Find other new moms

You’ll feel less alone when you can find other parents around you who are going through the same thing. peanut and (founded by a Canadian) are like dating apps except you look for local moms who have babies the same age as you. If you get on well with someone, meet up for socially distanced walks, or just stick to phone calls, texting, or Zoom for now. “Virtual connection is not the same as in person, but it may be better than complete isolation,” says Giesbrecht.

2. Join mom-focused social media groups

Look for online communities where you can start a conversation or get involved. The next time you get up at 2am to feed your baby, you can log into Facebook or Instagram to make sure others are awake too, for good reason. Your new moms may not be able to help you solve a latching problem, but you have a community willing to listen when you’re feeling down or need to vent, and to laugh at the horror story of another diaper blast is empowering the solidarity.

There are countless groups out there, but some of our favorites are The Fussy Baby Site Support Group, The leaky chest, ladies with babies, Precious little sleep, pink and blue, Exclusive Pumping Mamas, Maternity without Wooand Connection to black mothers.

3. Try lactation support via telemedicine or app

If you have Difficulty establishing breastfeeding but if you’re not comfortable with a Lactation Consultant (LC) visiting your home, see if LCs in your local community offer virtual video visits – many do. (In fact, before the pandemic, many LCs offered virtual appointments, as it’s not always easy leaving home with a newborn when you’re recovering from childbirth.) Someone will video meet you to observe your technique and diagnose any problems and give advice. The maple app ( connects people with doctors and lactation consultants, or you could try the 24/7 LC service within the MyMedela app, which offers live video chat (they have one-month or three-month memberships). Lots of locals La Leche League Breastfeeding support chapters also host free online meetings.

4. Train with other moms and babies

Zoom exercise classes have become the norm during the pandemic and it’s difficult to fit exercise into your day when you are Caught napping at home with a baby anyway. It’s a great time to try a virtual mom-baby yoga session or postpartum fitness class from the safety of your home—even if you’re exhausted. “These classes can provide a familiar rhythm to life, provide structured ways to connect with the baby, and help reduce feelings of isolation,” says Giesbrecht.

It’s not about weight loss or “Get your pre-baby body backIt’s all about getting those feel-good endorphins flowing and boosting your mental health. Researchers from the University of Alberta found that pregnant women and new moms who did at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise each week were less likely to experience anxiety and depression during the pandemic than women who were less physically active. Light stretching and mobility exercises can also be very helpful if you’ve spent hours hunched over while breastfeeding or if you’re experiencing lower back strain from carrying babies.

You don’t need a lot of equipment or an expensive Peloton bike for this. First, check if your local yoga and fitness studios offer online classes for moms and postpartum babies, or check out virtual studios and fitness apps like The Mama Reset, Baby Bee Yoga or The Bloom Method. (But always be wary of programs and accounts that border on “thinspiration” and don’t portray a range of people and body types.) Weather and COVID restrictions where you live permitting, some postpartum classes and boot camps are still taking place outdoors take place with physical distancing.

5. Plan “walk and talks” or “hike and hangs”

Bundle up and meet a friend for a socially distanced walk around town or hike through the woods. You can push your strollers together while keeping physical distance, or Practice babywearing and your body heat keeps your little one warm. This is ideal for fellow moms whose baby sleep schedules are in sync. It’s also a convenient way for a friend or relative to meet your baby in person from two meters away. “A physically distanced walk or visit can be a ‘low risk’ face-to-face encounter,” says Giesbrecht.

6. Use video chat to introduce your baby

If you can’t stretch your bubble far enough to introduce your baby to everyone, introducing your new addition via Zoom, Skype, or another platform can help you feel closer. Put your newborn’s tiny fingers or toes close to the camera for your loved ones to marvel at, or dress them up in the outfit your relative sent you. And don’t just make the call about your baby; Your family and friends will also want to hear how you are doing.

7. Don’t be afraid to talk about it

Sometimes opening up to someone outside of your inner circle, such as a therapist, can help you feel validated. You may find it comforting to understand everything that is going on in the world by discussing it with someone who is qualified to help you. Remember that seeking psychological support does not mean you have it postpartum depression (although you should know that one in seven mothers does!). Experience many new mothers the baby bluesor feeling overwhelmed without a PPD diagnosis or pandemic. The telemedicine platform livecare is a great place to find a therapist without leaving your home. Postpartum Support International is another excellent resource with a very useful directory of North American mental health professionals and various weekly online support groups (such as. There is also the Ontario Telemedicine Network Togetherall platforma completely anonymous peer-to-peer mental health support network where you can share your emotions without revealing your identity.

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